But there’s a lot more to a kiss than how it makes you feel. Add spice to your relationship by taking the 30-second kiss challenge. We count in our head, like one-one thousand, two—” [Laughing], Ryan: For a lot of couples, and it’s a big thing! Because we’re not just talking about the things we need to do. [Selena resumes speaking solo] I want to say podcast, but we haven’t done an episode on it, which… There’s a lot to it, than just the experiment, but we’ll fill that out in a bit. Breathe through your nose. After the baby has be [Both say together] released! Mm-hm. You’re part of a body of believers. Selena: Ryan: “It’s my job to be responsible for, then, sharing that with the other in a way that’s helpful/ in a way that nurtures our relationship.” But what if there is this pressure that it’s up to one person to figure it out for both parties? If you’ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider donating today to help defray the costs? Yes! Ryan: I’m just along for the ride. No. Ther—Yeah. And the way you act is you go to patreon.com/fiercemarriage. “What?! It can definitely warm things up if it’s been kind of cold lately. It’s brutal. Yeah. Selena: Together, their writing reaches millions of monthly readers around the world with the transformational message of the gospel. We can ask. Selena: So, you did—. So, just go in expecting that is the first observation. Ryan: And so often, if I can just get to the point of, like, “You know what?”. [Selena laughs] So, we’re going to talk about things as if we’re pregnant now, but you might be hearing it after the baby’s due—, Ryan: It forces us to stop being distracted, to look at each other, and to be each other’s attention in that moment. 00:29:58 Well, we’re actually doing a marriage blog. This is funny. I mean, He’s the One who made this dimension to the marriage relationship in the first place. Like, if it’s purely physical you can be feeling a little empty, I think, after it? What’s your take?” [Selena chuckles] Like, “Why are you guys still together? I’m confident it will have a positive impact on your relationship with your spouse. So, we’re being vulnerable in these ways. When you’re legs start shaking! Let its spices flow. [Laughing] It leads to… babies. Selena: [Both chuckle] That’s awkward! As Sarah K. put it, "I know it is hard to resist kissing someone, especially if they mean a … Bob: Well, again, we’ve been listening to our friend, Ron Deal, as he has been talking about marital intimacy and God’s design / God’s perspective—how a husband and wife can experience all that God intends for us in this very intimate area of marriage. If we’re not really feeling it, and then we’re like, “Well, we should probably do this.” [Laughs]. Ryan: [Selena laughs] Pre-release? Ryan: But it’s been super—. Ryan: Selena: [Both laughing], Ryan: Intrigued, I asked, “What do you mean?“… though I suppose I could have figured it out. IT HELPS FIGHT CHOLESTEROL Apparently, smooching can have a … Except for when you are doing something hard and intentional in kissing, and/or kissing. Chapter 4, verse 16: “Awake”—this is the woman, and she is—it is their wedding night. Stress—exhaustion in women and body image are high at the top of the list of turning down her sexual energy. Aromas/smells—. You can see how that just takes you down the wrong road. Actually, kissing leads to dancing, and [Chuckling] dancing leads to babies. Ryan: You go to fiercemarriage.com/podcast and you can hit the button there, or [Selena giggles] you can call or text this number: 971-333-1120. When you’re “kissably-close” to your spouse, smelling their breath, feeling their skin, you remember who they are as a person. Yes, I am. And we talked about this, is you burn 15 seconds all the time without even thinking twice! Selena: And yeah, it reminds us that we’re humans. Average man thinks about sex 30 times a day—it just crosses through his mind in some form or fashion—whatever that is. You can get help. Ryan: The point is—over time, there is a variety of meals. If you’re quarantining with your sweetie, there’s a lot more opportunity for it these days – but with COVID numbers rising, you may be wondering: Can I get COVID-19 from kissing (or even more intimate activity)?. And I can’t be editing podcasts. Ryan: [Ryan chuckles], Selena: Whether someone is crying, doing something naughty or extremely upset, a pure hug can help him calm down and feel better about the whole situation. Ryan: We tried this experiment. Just relax. It wasn’t like God was trying and failing. Somebody adopted in by the blood of Christ. Or it can be really enduring and fun! And see where it takes us. And you can kiss it out! And there’s more purpose in it, and, again, God designed kissing for a reason, and I think His reasons go deeper than just the physical. If you are crunched for time then going for sprints is the best workout decision you can ever take. Ryan: She stood, stood, stood. Sometimes, you have a specific hunger for a specific kind of touch or sexual act, and you need to communicate that on any given occasion. I’m like, “Okay!” [Laughs briefly]. Ryan: Pre-order. First of all, context—in Jewish culture, if a couple got married, they got married, and then, they went into a side room, adjacent to where the ceremony was, and then consummated the marriage. Okay! And, ugh! Well, we don’t really know. That is crazy to think! 00:01:18 Have you ever gone on a first date and have it go great only to have the second date be a disaster? ‘Cause it’s not just… You objectify another person when you start kind of describing them or seeing them not as an individual with their own thoughts and emotions and opinions, but instead they serve a function that is somehow detached from the relationship. One is that you would pray about partnering with us financially! Bob: Yes, he’s already laid out for us, this week, a foundation for marriage, talking about sex from God’s point of view. Learned that it’s not simply just a kiss, right? YouTube: 30 seconds or more; Tiktok: 0.1 seconds i.e. So, I just want to, I guess, share that testimony, hopefully to build your faith and to trust God in that way, and trust Him regardless of the outcome. It’s all rooted in the gospel and the foundations of God and the Bible.” I think that’s—, Ryan: Ryan: 12. So, I’ll get some… You know, brush my teeth, do the mouthwash [Selena laughs], gum… Altoids. So, the first one is that 15 seconds isn’t that long, except when you’re kissing [Selena snickers]. We are going to talk about this experiment that we did a while back. It’s kind of hard to talk about it. Selena: And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Plant the kiss and back off quickly. This next little part—where it says, “friends”—and there is this little note there in Scripture. There’s all kinds of good stuff there! Bob: As a married couple, how would you grade your kissing? So, that whole proverb is contrasting avoiding immorality…. Video: 8 Characteristics of a Healthy Sex Life, How is Your Phone Hurting Your Marriage? 00:15:02 This is completely out of your control! It’s a book of poetry. :-). Okay! And we hope you have a great weekend. Selena: Video: What does selfless love look like? And it’s leading you on that active path of actually drinking. What (little ‘g’) gods Are You Worshipping in Your Marriage? That’s faster than it’s ever been in our house! We stopped thin—Like, five, six, seven seconds in…, Ryan: Ryan: Ryan: And we’ll see you on the other side. each tiem a video starts; Twitter: 2 seconds . It could mean that intercourse happens—could be that intercourse doesn’t happen. You can still love him and give him whatever the Holy Spirit calls you to do in the name of love, in the name of Christ-like love. There is nothing worse than one partner knowing what the other person should be happy with. Then just get on iTunes or your favorite podcasting app, leave a rating, leave a review. It’s not an easy thing to do. Ryan: However, according to Winter, if your date goes in … Ryan: You’re responsible to bring your heart, your head, your body, your attitudes, your thoughts, and your feelings to every sexual encounter—which means: “I’ve got to communicate. Well, it’s so easy to objectify each other. And I pray that it would all be for Your glory! And we’ll go through each one of those very quickly, but I think it’s important to root it, once again, in kind of this idea, the bigger ideas of scripture, namely the call of God. Especially those hard times. Before we do that, how about you do housekeeping this time? I do want to have a—I just want to take a little sidebar and talk to, maybe, the couple that you just started talking to. Done! I’m not exactly sure why, but I do know it wasn’t like that when we were dating. Ryan: Ryan: Ryan: Hey! He’s the author of the book, Shepherding a Child’s Heart. If you’d like to make a donation today, go to FamilyLifeToday.com. Testosterone is principally the thing that turns on your sexual initiative for sexuality / “your hunger” are the words I like to use. Of our relationship, of our marriage, not just the good but especially the bad, I feel like. Pursuing is something that’s in your control. Selena: The kids are asleep or whatever the moment is, that’s where I’m like, “I don’t feel like being close to you now!” [Selena laughs out loud] “I feel like you’ve neglected me this far.”, Ryan: Ryan: Second take away, and we’re going to rattle through these pretty quickly, is it’s nearly impossible to, and this is what we discovered, it’s nearly impossible to kiss for an extended period of time and not feel closer!